They say it takes 21 days to make a habit. This saying is in reference to dieting, working out, etc but I wonder if it applies to dating as well. If you make it to 21 days of seeing someone does that therefore make them a habit? You’ve gotten used to each other. The initial get to know you facts are out of the way. But, does the woo phase go away at this point where you two have become a habit in each other’s lives? This is always contingent on the couple and the individual personalities. I think the form of woo just changes. It becomes less superficial and more in depth. It can go from a goofy “thinking about you” picture to questions to get to know your family and investing in your health and background. But you still get butterflies and do a little “woo-hoo!” in your mind when you see their name pop up on their phone.

The first three weeks with Mister Man might as well have been a Nicholas Sparks mini-novel. I never experienced someone so thoughtful, kind and supportive. I could completely be myself with him and same with him being himself with me. I would tell my friends things he did and they had to hold down the vomit. From doing sit ups with kisses at the top to sending the cheesiest of texts and snaps. I was head over boots and my friends heads were between their boots.

We went on our first official date that Sunday after we met, just like I had put in our calendars. He picked out a place with plenty of gluten-free options and drove down from CT to spend the evening with me. He was so handsome pulling up in his white car. It might as well have been a white horse. And wow, did he smell amaze-balls and his shirt was purple – my favorite color, which he knew.

We went to Heidi’s House, which he picked for their gluten-free options. So considerate and one of my favorite spots. The meal was delicious. The bottle of wine was delicious. And the game of Battleship was devious since he let me win! That was a moment for me. A moment of selflessness and how nice it feels to have someone truly care about you. The night ended with another innocent night over and early morning departure, but the butterflies stayed.

The following week was almost torture not being able to see him but we stayed in touch with the cheesiest of snaps and texts. My heart would light up along with my phone when I saw his name pop up. The following weekend he was moving so I offered to go to CT for the first time. I’ve dated people on the MetroNorth before and hated it but now I don’t hate getting on that train. I’m happy to hop on it, even on a work night. I went up late Saturday afternoon after a bottomless Sangria brunch with my friends. Mister Man and I had dinner at BANC House. Tons of BBQ (he knows I’m a Texas girl!) and oysters. Those oysters. That night. Wow. The following morning, that’s when I started to really fall for this guy. He bought gluten-free Bisquick to make us a delicious breakfast. Little did I know this was the first of many delicious meals. Mister Man is quite the cook! Dining out became a thing of the past for me. I attribute this to my healthier lifestyle as well.

Then I was gone for a week and a half in Austin, TX. We talked continuously. We were both really sad about me going away for a while and not seeing each other. I was mad because I knew the infamous LA guy was going to be in Austin, TX as well. He pretty much made fun of me when I told him I was seeing someone. I ignored him and went on to my drunk dialing to Mister Man. While away, social media issues arose and we even had a healthy conversation over my concerns. I had never had someone been so responsive and communicate well to a question. I was pleased and definitely would “love” that status. Coming back from TX, I was delayed 9 hours. I was so excited to spend Memorial Day weekend with Mister Man and he had a meal all prepared for my arrival but I ended up not getting in until 10pm. We ordered pizza. Gluten-free of course. We had a great weekend cooking, grilling and Netflix and chilling. Heavy on the chill. And the chill has been the hottest of my life.

The distance has never been a problem. The commute is almost easier and definitely more enjoyable. Mister Man has been so motivating in me bettering my life in so many aspects such as fitness and diet. I’ve lost 20 pounds since being with Mister Man. I’m excited to share my workouts with him, such as hitting my running goal of being under 30 minutes for a 5K, and healthy eating choices. I love that he isn’t much of a drinker. I don’t miss the hangovers. I just miss him when I’m not with him. Since these first few weeks we see each other pretty consistently. Most weekends are spent in CT at the beach or in NYC on boats with food and drinks. We even went up to a beautiful beach in Rhode Island to spend a summer day. The first 21 days were especially magical and I hope that spark never fades. Just like a current popular song, “Don’t need no butterflies when you give me the whole damn zoo.”

PSA: I’m officially a BeachBody Coach so if you’re interested in learning more about how I’ve lost 20 pounds in about three months, send me a message or comment below! 🙂