Finding love was the last thing on my mind when I moved to New York City in the Summer of 2013. I moved here on a one way flight with three suitcases, a one month sublet and nine interviews in hopes of landing the start of my career. The reason “love” was the last thing on my mind was because every time I would visit NYC years prior I always found someone – a weekend fling you could say. It wasn’t until I moved here and actually got into a dating groove I realized the allure of me to these guys when I visited was that I did not live here and that I would be gone in a few days. Hence me not really hearing much from them once I returned back below the Mason Dixon line.

I look at New York City dating as walking through a candy store. You want a little bit of everything and five steps away is something that may be a little bit better. There are thousands of potential bachelors and bachelorettes in this city so the dating easily becomes a #grassisgreener mentality. So why settle on one bachelor when there are thousands at our fingertips? Literally, and for free, thanks to apps like Tinder, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, etc. But, now that I am settled in my career and my Upper East Side apartment I no longer want to be strolling through this bottomless candy store and looking at profile after profile. I’m in no rush and am content being single in the city, but it would be nice to have someone bring me a box of chocolates with a bottle of red wine to enjoy this upcoming winter with and see where things go.I’m not out looking for my husband, but I’d be lucky to find that one man at the same place in his life to share experiences in this amazing city.

Until then, I’m filtering through all the “NO’s” and they have no lack of entertainment value for me to share. So, grab some vino or a dirty martini and enjoy my dating experiences as I swipe my way through New York City with online dating apps and the occasional public transit encounter. Cheers!